lavenderdove and COtuner, you both bring up good points. As historian Stephanie Coontz of Evergreen State College noted when I asked her about the subject, the Industrial Revolutionera doctrine of separate mens and womens spheres limited interaction between the sexes for a large chunk of American history: Mens spheres were public life and the workplace, and womens was the home. the wife of someone who was becoming too close to a work colleague and going out for drinks after work and even one dinner (!) As far as I understand it doesn't matter in the eyes of the courts even if a person cheated, which is unfortunate. Right from the . The main common denominator was that when I didn't respond, they didn't continue the attention. Me, her, and her boyfriend. Maybe I am oblivious to these things but I am pretty sure no married woman has ever tried to hit on me (and I don't blame them!!). I believe there are other factors to take into consideration. Partying all night with other men is a boundary you should have let her know she can't cross. It was just friendly (although he was flattering about the way I look and he is clearly an attractive man) BUT I am not interested in any other way than friends. Monster has released a range of alcoholic drinks that recreate the flavours of the popular energy drinks. He tries to get you to drink with him: Everyone knows Alcohol is one of the most crucial things that numb our brains and makes us emotional. Life is more chaotic. I had a married man going after me. For 7 hours? He is draining the life from your relationship by doing this. OP, it isn't ok. I would not be okay with that if the behavior were repeated over and over. If I were in your position, and the genders reversed (Me and a female coworker, and I have a girlfriend), I would never go with the coworker, unless it is a group setting. that there is something more to this. Younger (straight) married couples today have grown up in a world in which their sexual and relationship choices were never societys business. Besides the going out drinking with male coworkers none of her behavior seems like she values or respects you. If you were in my shoes, how would y. I start calling her thinking ok something bad must have happened. No answer to multiple calls, so now I am getting super worried and super pissed about the situation to the point where I call the hospital just to see if she was checked in or something (yeah I know, that might be going a bit too far but ya never know.). Draw your line, and stick to it. I do not drink but I go to have girl time and chat. I dont think you have the right to tell him he can't! No, it's not fine. I said it would be lovely to meet them all. It's like you have some sort of guilt complex. I was in that situation. But to see a married man entertaining the same single. As a woman I cannot accept it. Shutterstock. Finally she calls me back around 9:20 asking me whats up. Several said they'd be uncomfortable if their spouse or partner engaged in certain interactions without them and/or felt their spouses might not be happy with them if they did the same. He was fired the next day. Did he actually love me? What sort of overlap in schedules does the. We had different work schedules and it created an uncomfortable dynamic in that sense. reader, dougbcoll+, writes (12 September 2013): A If it is purely as just friends, then yes. When I met my husband, he had a good friend at work, a single girl, who is EXTREMELY flirtatious, and at least a little annoying. I guess I blame myself for not taking enough responsibility for my behavior by not noticing enough red flags, and that's how I felt with the sexual assault as well. My heart, however, says I would go completely nuts if this was my DH. male 66,747 1,187 55. Breastfeeding: the trick to a comfy latch. I am not sure if she has any respect for you. I don't see the problem with friends of the opposite sex when you are in a relationship but this is quite different. It also means deflecting their attempts to get alone time with you. These things all happened with different women, and are just some of the more egregious examples. So why did I tell him we could talk after he got divorced? reader, So_Very_Confused+, writes (12 September 2013): A His family will always come first, and that . Christmas he doesnt want to spend it with me or nye. I don't agree, I think different generations see things a bit differently. The Supreme Courts 2003 Lawrence v. Texas decision legalized all consensual sex between adults. He called and asked her out away from work. If it's all so innocent and just as friends then there is no reason for it to be kept secret from his wife is there. I think the key to understanding this is recognizing that married men who love their wives and don't want to cheat don't spend a lot of time socializing with single women, whether that is chatting them up, going to lunch/dinner alone with them, calling them on the phone or engaging in a lot of email or IM that doesn't also include their wives in the socializing. Sorry hun, but alarm bells would be going off in my head :( You need to tell your husband how much this affecting you and that you either want to meet her, or you want him to end the "friendship" (and I would hardly call it worthwhile friendship if he doesn't even want his friend to meet the most important person in his life!). Drinking in someone's home - a woman with several men - husband not present - wife gets pissy when questioned - enough is drunk that the person can't drive and needs to sleep it off. Your husband is being unreasonable. Registered in England. I believe marriages should be respected, treasured and protected. reader, loony89+, writes (12 September 2013): A Put a voice activated digital recorder in her car. I guess some background about me, I have not been in a ton of relationships before my wife, maybe 5 or 6 long term ones. Men under 30 aren't going on dates . I've been thinking a lot about this thread today. A. M. Cazares Mother, Author, and Pro Se Litigant (1997-present) Author has 3K answers and 1.2M answer views 1 y Related A new female coworker asked my husband for his socials knowing he's married. . I told her again it was too late for me to come out. Okay, big duh. Done it dozens of times..I worked in an industry and at a level was male dominated. I'm sure my guilt complex is tied to other issues (being sexually assaulted when I was a teenager and feeling it was my fault) but in general, I think worrying is not a sign of feeling guilty. yeah, just don't do anything you wouldn't do in front of his wife, and you're ok. No. Before anybody screams "get real," I'm sure people hook up but I'm just saying not all men are on the prowl, etc. brokenangel1, August 19, 2014 in General Relationship Discussion, My wife has worked with these two male co-workers for few years. This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies. He was in my life before my DH and I continue to go out for the occasional drink with him. Actually . It's all in the smile. She's blonde, beautiful, skinny, and he thinks a lot of her, always going on about how attractive she is and how she deserves a nice bloke. What might be happening is that our jealous reptile brains havent caught up with new social rules and gender roles. I take it she will know nothing about it? Started Tuesday at 03:06 AM, By Sit down and place those boundaries now. We and our partners use data for Personalised ads and content, ad and content measurement, audience insights and product development. female btw, i've met men who are sexual predators, and others who just have poor impulse control. Another man wondered if watching a sporting event with an unattached woman would somehow imply that his own wife was in some way undesirable because she didnt like sports. 3) She has lost interest in you. It doesn't mean you should divorce, but you should certainly clarify your expectations and where the boundaries are. The fact that it was all men makes it a little shifty. Maybe your husband likes the attention, especially if you have young children. Photo by Thinkstock. I think, just my opinion, the issue is how you both communicate. I agree.. but it only takes an hour or so to drink a few drinks.. 8 hrs later she is now texting him, it might have been hours more before she actually arrived home. If you would like to change your settings or withdraw consent at any time, the link to do so is in our privacy policy accessible from our home page.. I'll get my nails done, or I'll maybe hit up a hair salon for a mid-week blow-out. You don't have to be rude to reject the personal attempts, just assertive. Thus if he wants to sleep with you, he tends to make and get you to drink. I tried being super honest with her saying "I guess I don't like my wife out drinking with guys I dont know, without me" and asked her how she would feel if I went out getting smashed with two female co-wrkers from work for 7 hours without her. Not calling to leave a message was inconsiderate. You have a strong gut feeling that he will come back. Please don't. Part of me says "She your wife and should NOT be out drinking with guys, my mother knows the story and all she says is ''I told you not to marry that women'' Im not one for pubs and bars, if she doesn't want to listen to me I'll just take it that she has fallen out of love with me and fill for divorce. When my friend shared this story with me and several others via email, all agreed that there is nothing improper about a married person being home with a Comcast specialist when his/her husband/wife is away. ", Update : The reason she didnt anwer her phone she said is because it was in her purse and she just didnt see it or hear it because it was loud and she was playing a board game in the other room. What you feel is not unfair it completely acceptable. There are more opportunities for male-female socialization in the United States now than ever before. All contents 2023 The Slate Group LLC. 6 views, 0 likes, 0 loves, 0 comments, 1 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from Silas Chung: Couple Tried To Divorce 6 Months After Wedding (Full Episode) E239 #PaternityCourt I would say OK, but I will probably not really be OK with it, said one. I think a lot of women worry about being taken advantage of by men - either we've had bad experiences or we've been taught to be self-protective. Bigbedroom Obviously the friend is looking to meet guys and she is using your wife as a wingman. L143myself I agree with you on the money issue. If he wants to see her, suggest she comes round for dinner and drinks at yours. Some of our partners may process your data as a part of their legitimate business interest without asking for consent. It's possible that he'll get upset when you tell him the truth. But what she is doing cannot be acceptable when she is married to a husband who cares about her and not coming for 8 hours home? reader, SeattleWill+, writes (15 October 2019): A I'm just listening and taking it all in. As it happens, Stephanie Coontz actually told me she had heard of husbands in the 1950s and 60s forbidding their wives to have repairmen or survey-takers in their homes when they were not there. She added that such attitudes were not widespread even at the time, and that in some cases it was the women who were afraid to have a strange man in the house or even on the porch, rather than the man being jealous. The lesson here, maybe, is that theres never been a clear standard, even an unwritten one, on when and where were supposed to avoid nonsingle peopleand for whose benefit were doing so. I think he was flattered with the attention. To view the purposes they believe they have legitimate interest for, or to object to this data processing use the vendor list link below. He's wearing a ring. Ever. And yet, as Berkowitz points out, I dont think that peoples desire to possess the body of their spouse is any less intense than it was 125 years ago. A married man being alone with a woman besides his wife (and vice versa) was once a relatively rare occurrence that could even raise the specter of criminal activity. Answer: I think you'll both be happier if you let her go out with friends within reason, of course. DIGITAL SPY, PART OF THE HEARST UK ENTERTAINMENT NETWORK. I get pissed and tell her its been 8 fking hours.she says "really?." We have been dating for 2.5 years as well. You know what that means- play fighting. It is improper for you to go out with a man you have not committed yourself to. I wake up at like 5:30 am not feeling well and notice she is not home. Ironically, one of the single men I worked with got fired for a ridiculously blown out of proportion sexual harassment claim while this was going on. All Rights Reserved. Then upon your return was gushing about how wonderful/attractive/amazing he was? Id feel some unease. I've had nights out -- while in a LTR -- where I didn't come home until 6 hours or so after work. It's definitely fine, if she was single. Its up to us, as always, to keep each other happy by working out the rules on our own. I've come to a great realization. Another married male colleague and I go out quite often for a drink or to run errands or whathaveyou and it couldn't be more platonic, and again, his wife is completely cool with it. When I ever I work from home, I ping the two of them to see if they want to go to happy hour (and invite my sister and everyone else I know in the neighborhood). Hope that makes sense. We have been happily married for many years, and neither she nor I feel comfortable with a female employee going for drinks with mostly males. What sort of overlap in schedules does the OP have with his wife? Waiting outside the bar for your friends is also weird. What are ways a married person might try to wear down the boundaries of someone he or she wanted to have an affair with? traditional sex war drags on in the background. While there may be no legal case against you, he will stand to lose his marriage, his property, and may even have to pay financial assistance depending on how his wife chooses to proceed with the case. I work with a lot of males, and we go out drinking from time to time. How often do they do this? While this can be a helpful resource for some, others are using these platforms to self-diagnose and potentially harm their mental health. The kids are the biggest thing though. Some people that I put the question to, meanwhile, said none of the hypothetical situations described would bother them. If someone starts sending you flirty email/IM, then don't play. It is illegal. It was a bank, one of the most screwed up work environments I've ever been in. It might even be a good idea to give her enough rope to hang/indict herself. If they are married, shut them down. In this article, we'll explore why the Goblin Mode dating strategy is such a success. That is such a funny story because it just shows you how money makes a guy so much more attractive. Mike wasn't the only married man I'd been involved with. you don't need to experience a ton of relationships to get to know acts from a woman because you learn ton of things from one single woman. I never been out with another people while I was married.If I went some where there was my husband always by the way I am not a drinking woman so I have less experiences about bars and drinking. When I was 16 I met a guy called David and he told gave me a short list of gay rules and they were. OH is always keen to introduce me to his female friends and it's nice to spend time together in a big group. In theory its fine. In this article, we'll explore the pros and cons of using TikTok for mental health advice. All Content Copyright (C) DearCupid.ORG 2004-2008 - we actively monitor for copyright theft, Register in under one minute and get your own agony aunt column. Feb 4, 2012. At the same time, weve removed our government from its historic role as a regulator of sexual morality. I had feelings for him, so the fact that he was still with someone and hitting on me made me want to make his life a living hell. Some of what I experienced was extremely overt, even bizarre, being asked out on dates by married women as if they were single, having them come in my office after hours and start backrubs, calls at home, letting me know that their husband was away and they were alone at home "wondering what to do" lol, being asked to come out drinking after work, then being told they had a room at the hotel if I wanted to stay. In addition, no one should be driving home after two or more drinks. While they may say it's strictly friendship, it usually always ends up in bed at one time or another if they're going out like that without their partner. Last week I went out for drinks with an ex-coworker. You both need to calm down and communicate to each other what your needs are and go from there. Tbh, he's taking the piss with no consideration to you. She is married so to me it was just lunch and nothing else. Tell them you're tired and going back to your room (alone) early, and don't party or drink with them alone. Do you think you could be being oversensitive because you are in this rough patch? Certainly, the phone in the purse was wrong. I went to the bar and took my time ordering my drink while observing them before i decided to interrupt them. in a tone like asking "is it really a big deal?" This doesn't just mean don't cheat- it means keep yourself out of situations that make you look bad, even if you're innocent. Am I being a typical insecure guy on this? I guess my question is, keeping in mind this is the first time this has happened, are my sensibilities incorrect? Earlier this year, I had to deal with a overly and overtly flirty co-worker; I just turned a blind eye/ear to whatever he said/did. That left me and the lady manager. Please note: The suggestions and advice offered on this web site are opinions only and are not to be used in the place of professional psychological counseling or medical advice. Second, if you want to hang out with other women, better ask yourself, "Why?" Say what you will, but there's often quite a bit of truth to jokes. I think it can get to the point where someone is just too paranoid to treat their married colleague like a human being. My husband has female friends but they are friends. Wow . We were colleagues and I didn't have to work on projects closely with him. Then she countered with "YOU WERE INVITED!!" Last week I was on a business trip with two of my managers, one of whom is a lady. She thinks that she is still single. They get on really well. Don't try to convince yourself that it's a fashion ring or something else. Another one of the best signs a female coworker is attracted to you is the smile. 14. Not Taking Responsibility. 2. If your girlfriend does have a few drinks, she will naturally become more open to the idea of talking to random guys. The #1 app for tracking pregnancy and baby growth. We and our partners use cookies to Store and/or access information on a device. Am I being gas lighted? None said that the hypothetical situations would make them seriously suspicious that their partners were being unfaithful. I act in a professional manner but I am not constantly vigilante about how to interact with a male colleague. Maybe this was his plan from the start. Looking back on things, I feel my behavior didn't align with my values because I gave into pressure from my mother and friends to give this man a chance. Do they have a large social circle? When you meet up with them, let your feelings known about the inappropriateness of asking a married man out for drinks alone and breaking the rules going over budget to go overboard for said married man's gift. "A woman drinking with a group of . How do I know, bad breakup. The fact you have not been allowed to meet her and get to know her makes me feel uncomfortable. And to be honest, if you want to succeed in business (and not by having sex with the higher ups), then you need to behave professionally in all circumstances and not flirt. Your husband has a choice to stay at the bar to entertain this single young lady or go home with his wife. Thanks. My husband likes to have a beer or two so he does go to the local dive bars with the guys after work. pastoralcucumbers But she didn't do that, she turned it all around on him. You've been in a relationship for years. Maybe that is just a male perspective. Wednesday is my favorite day of the week, because it's usually the day I treat myself. Started February 24, By 1. She seems to think that there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with going out with her two male co-workers (both of them are in relationships btw) and getting smashed for 8 hours without me there. If you practice the philosophy that you don't put yourself in compromising positions alone with them (especially involving partying alone or drinking with them), and don't engage in flirting and personal email/IM messaging, you will avoid most of the problems. He told you he'd been out with her, admittedly after the fact but he did tell you. You know, if you're meeting up with friends at a bar and you get there early. First of all, I won't judge you if you're that man, but the Bible does tell us that if a man marries, he will forsake other relationships in favour of his wife. That should be an obvious sign you're dating a married man. 12) Join the dating scene. One man said the possibility of a straight man thinking about his wife in a sexual way while alone with her made him uneasy even though he wasnt worried about infidelity per se. What if an attractive area parent brought his or her kid over for a play date while you were at work? But something in my gut told me he was acting inappropriately, and sure enough he never got divorced. Alleybux. I would ballistic, which wouldn't help.Talk but be very blunt. She complained. If your spouse is found having group lunch meetings or individual lunches that strictly pertain to work, then that's a different story. My DH felt very threatened by this in the beginning - esp as my friend was single and we had dated yonks ago. Melrich and HellFrost, are there any red flags you've noticed with married women trying to hit on you or set up an inappropriate situation to see if you'd go along with an affair? I think having a few drinks with colleagues is normal. But, isn't socializing and schmoozing a part of work life, and a way to get contacts, climb the work ladder, etc? Any thoughts or feedback would be greatly appreciated! The cost should be reasonable, or if not, that money can go to a nice trip for the both of you or for your family trip. Usually they openly hit on me, which makes it easy to identify them. Two friends going for a drink, wheres the problem ?? I cannot for the life of me believe that it would be okay for a married woman to go AWOL with a bunch of drinking guy work friends and not come home till after the next day and then get upset because her husband is upset Start keeping a journal of everything, and I mean everything that happens, conversations, texts, emails, everything so that when you lawyer up you have a comprehensive account of all the **** she pulled. All of my married friends talk about their families when we're together, although since I have no kids or husband, they realize I can't relate beyond listening to the story. The minute he started talking to me in a way I knew intuitively and in my gut was inappropriate, I should have stopped talking to him completely. I'm curious about the male perspective on this. But I do think that sometimes boundaries get blurry and that's why it's good to notice subtle red flags. I agree with the poster above who said the signs are usually pretty easy to read and I think your radar is in tune enough not to miss them. Looking for advice on handling a disappointing visit. No big deal. I do not care at all. Register in under one minute and get your own agony aunt column - recommended! Started Monday at 06:41 PM, By What's open at 2AM?.but even if there are places open, nothing good happens at that time anyway. That's nuts! What the hell is your husband playing at?! As social media continues to grow in popularity, more and more people are turning to platforms like TikTok for mental health advice. 1. I'm sure you all must have other issues and I'd really try to decide henceforth if things can be fixed or not as I absolutely would NOT tolerate this kind of disrespect and nonchalance from a spouse. Would you be as bothered if it was a man? I told him we could talk after he got divorced. and just chill. I'm curious about the male perspective on this. Is that inappropriate or normal? 2. Her chance for happiness hinges on a future that is highly uncertain, to say the least. She use to be a cyber girl some years back, before she had an interest to work, its strange how people change through the years. . from one night of drinking too much to divorce court. Single men never. Whether its a little crush or somethings else. So she rushes home and yells at me asking what my problem is and that it was a **** move texting her making her feel like a ****ty person and wife. My oh had a work friend like that, it turns out she was in love with him. Only fools fall in love with married men. The constant talking and complimenting her is also quite off. What on earth is his reasoning behind that? Copyright 1997-2022 LoveShack.org. It's helped me a lot and I hope others as well. People don't get a free pass to cheat just because their marriage sucks. However, acting on those urges and desires becomes an issue in a monogamous marriage. Bills tone, per my friend, conveyed indignation that such an insulting possibility had even been considered. He often jokes about leaving his wife. 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